Episode 17: Parenting AFTER the "We're getting a divorce" talk
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🎙 Episode Introduction
So, you’ve had the talk. You told your kids about the divorce, you breathed a giant sigh of relief… and now you’re wondering, “Okay, what comes next?” This week on Emotions with Ease, we’re diving into Part Two of our divorce series — what to do after the conversation. Because the truth is, telling your kids is just the beginning. In this episode, I’ll walk you through how to: Stay emotionally grounded while your kids are wobbling, Avoid the “two-team trap,” and Recognize when kids circle back to big feelings months (or years) later. Even if divorce isn’t part of your story, these tools work for any hard family season — grief, big moves, job loss, new schools. Let’s get you calm, clear, and confident again.
🌱 Key Takeaways
💛 Regulated parents raise regulated kids. Feel your feelings — just make sure they belong to you, not your child.
🧠 Resource yourself. Counselor, coach, friend, or journal — whatever helps you refill your emotional tank so you can keep showing up steady.
🤫 Don’t trash-talk the other parent. It only confuses and divides kids. Silence or neutrality is the real flex.
🤝 Stay on the same team. The marriage ended; the parenting didn’t. Your relationship changed shape, not purpose.
🔄 Development is a spiral, not a line. When kids revisit the divorce later, it’s not regression — it’s healthy re-processing.
✨ Name what’s yours and model what helps. “I’m sad, so I’m going to journal and take a walk.” That’s emotional literacy in action.
🧩 Practical Tools from This Episode
The Regulation Script: “I’m feeling a wave of sadness. That’s my emotion, and I can handle it.”
Maslow Moment: Before any tough talk or revisit, check: Is anyone hungry, tired, or thirsty?
The Pitch Rule: When you really want to swing at that verbal pitch about your ex — don’t. Breathe, walk away, vent elsewhere.
The Spiral Visual: Draw a spiral arrow up and to the right on a sticky note. Keep it handy as a reminder that looping back is still moving forward.